You must be kidding me...GET REAL

Aiight so I have been thinking about this conversation i had with this guy on Sunday pretty much on and off all week, and i keep wanting to blog about it so here it is....

me and dude were having the typical get to know each other conversation and after asking me what kind of things i look for in a man i responded honesty...he said thats it? I went on to say I look for the traits of Christ. He said thats it? i said yes, and he pretty much lost it....flew off the handle...flipped his lid...etc...etc.

He basically said to me that honesty is something that is earned in a relationship. He claimed that honest is something that you are not and should be feel obligated to be when you dont know the other person and are just beginning to know them. (HUH?) He went on to explain his point by telling me that he can have any woman he wants its just a matter of listening to what the woman needs and playing the right role in order to get what he would want. He sounds like he has been slathering a daily dose of deception and manipulation onto the lives of the people he comes into contact with if you ask me. I guess my response or lack of response to his rantings caused him to continue to run his self-made motivation down. I was actually thanking God while he was talking that i am so not interested in these kinds of slick talkers anymore. Sadly alot of women cant see through these kind of men or dont listen to the intution that screams put the phone down and back away from these kind of people. He explained that getting what he wants is a matter of his thoughts and self-esteem about himself? He said he could have me or any other woman he wants, if he makes his mind up he can have anything he chooses...he stressed this point several times...(i can have you if i want he went on and on blah blah....go have a dose of get real sir) he claimed it has nothing to do with what the other person wants if he wants something he makes it happen. Since when did self-esteem morph itself into forcing you to be a liar? getting what you want should not force you to go beyond the truth...he basically said that honesty is optional...I explained to him that this would be considered manipulation and the results would be pointless. He seemed to want me to react to his rantings but i just calmly listened. He went on to say that my temperment is not going to get me far in life...i guess he was looking for me to go "sista-girl" with a touch of "typical-black woman" on him??....he went on to further insult my intelligence by assuming i didnt know what temperment meant. Was this guy serious??

LOL i pretty much just looked at the phone and did my confused face...He began to tell me about how he does not "do" relationships he "does" companionship. (LOL as if i was interested in anything after he told me honesty was optional.) He had a whole practically rehearsed speech as to why he considers himself a great catch that will never be caught etc etc...He and i went back and forth for a few more rounds and then i realized that i need not waste my time any longer listening to this ridiculousness he was seriously trying to feed me. I cut him off mid-sentence and said, "well you have a good night." and hung the phone up. This guy carried on conversation like he had a built in bullhorn...and talk about defensive...sheesh buddy i dont have to agree with everything you're saying...and more importantly we should be able to carry on a calm debate/converstaion...bright side is that i learned in a matter of minutes what kind of guy this dude is...where as someone else will end up being manipulated and end up putting up with all this ridiculous propaganda he is promoting for a series of days, months or possibly even years. this guy seemed like he wanted a full blown argument from me,

sorry i couldnt deliver on that...wrong type of chick...After i hung up i felt so relieved...there is nothing worst than having a conversation with a person and feeling exhausted after the fact...and especially when you barely know the person...GET REAL. I protect my peace. I mean but seriously tho are people really living like this? Honesty is really optional for some people?

this my friends is what i call...MALARKY...put in a box, gift wrapped and tied up with a pretty bow...and thats one gift i will pass on.

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Thanksgiving

so today is Thanksgiving I enjoyed a nice day surrounded by family...I didn't rush to do anything just enjoyed the day at a nice slow pace. no complaints. I just couldn't help but think about the homeless today. We all have so much to be thankful for...any one of us could be like those people. I see homeless people everyday and I always wonder what their story is how did things get to this point for them. sad world...

Random Ridiculousness in the City: Old Twins

So the other night I was walking to the train station and in the midst of the crowd i saw this little old man he had to be about 80+ years old with this very bright loud shirt on, some kind of bright hawaiian print with this long trench coat, sneaks and cowboy hat.

I looked at his outfit (mainly the huge ten gallon hat) and was just thrown off...i remember thinking huh? in my mind LOL. i remember pausing for a few seconds and just having this look on my face.

as if that wasnt enought out of the crowd comes a second man 80+ years old with the same outfit on...TWINS...not just TWINS but TWINS with matching outfits.

The best part of this story is as they were crossing the street the one i first noticed helped the other brother across the street and side by side they crossed....all of a sudden i felt all warm inside...there's nothing in this world like family.

The outfits were still ridiculous tho...extremely randomly ridiculous LOL

O.T.T. stands for: Over the TOP

aiight it took a while to get my blog juices flowing today but now that they are started

oh boy watch out...LOL.

So i came up with the idea to blog about all the things that i feel are O.T.T. (OVER THE TOP) past and present....OK let me start light so yall can get the flow of what i mean about things and people being O.T.T.

sooo first on the list of my list of Persons, Places, and Things O.T.T. is:

PAULA ABDUL

what qualifies her as being over the top...the tears..."the ooooh dont listen to randy or simon or anyone you are a star" comments...well for me Paula is just sooo extra she's the kinda person that its not enough for her to give u a hug she wants a kiss too (and its her first time meeting you). She tries sooo hard its just over the top. I'm not knocking her but its just so exhausting...

O.T.T. Rating: 4

Next on my list of things OVER THE TOP is:

THE SUPER LONG PINKY FINGERNAIL

That long pinky nail qualifies you...yes you sir or madam for a O.T.T. badge...there is no serious explanation for it...cut that mess off. I found some interesting uses for these long pinky nails online...

1) sign of a pimp

2)long pinky often used to open envelopes

3)sharpened hard pink nail can be used as a weapon and can be a sign of prison time

4)picasso kept a long nail for mixing paints

none of these reasons are reason enough to be walking around with one long pinky nail...its OVER THE TOP and you are seeking attention...knock it off

O.T.T. Rating: 9

(just because your being ridiculous)

Next up we have:

PEOPLE AND CHICKEN

(especially fastfood chicken)

Why does this woman in the picture have to be holding the chicken bucket like a baby??

anyway ok so recently there has been ALOT of shan-i-gans going on at the local KFC's and Popeye's chicken resturants between Oprah giving away free chicken at KFC and Popeyes offering a 8 piece for $5.00 i have been seeing alot of Police activity at the local chicken spots...if you are one of the people causing a disturbance at a KFC, Popeyes or any other fast food resturant then you are seriously O.T.T... you need to get real with yourself, calm down, and get out of line...its just chicken

O.T.T. rating: 10

Here comes:
Fat Joe

CRACCCKKK..JOOOEEEYY the simple fact that this guy is always screaming out his name gets him nominated as O.T.T. its just too much...take it down a couple of notches...

We miss you Big Pun and we dont like your replacement...

we just deal with it

similar to Paula Abdul...its just exhausting to watch him try so hard to be cool.
I did like that song, "Let Me Take You Home" a while back so I wont be too hard on Joey
O.T.T. rating: 6


OH LAWD:
Tonex

Well what can I say Tonex is a gospel singer with a unbelieveable voice screaming for attention...
bicycle chains...check...
type of wife beater tank made famous by 50 cent...check
dash of scarf...check
fur coat...check
bluetooth earpiece...check
dont forget the mohawk'd tracks down the middle
its just alot going on
O.T.T. rating: 10
(we dont need a gospel version of Prince)


Next on we have:
Mr. Michael Baisden

This semi-sheer muscle shirt and the almost high top fade in this picture says it all...this guy screams Over the TOP. I like some of the things he has done as far as making people more aware of the issues but this guy has a real chip on his shoulder. The other day my co-worker was listening to his radio show (loudly) i hear him saying how he needs PRESIDENT OBAMA to call him right quick...and then says I mean I would hope he would take time to call up here b/c this is an important topic. Seriously Sir u r Over the TOP!!
O.T.T. Rating: 9
(assuming the PRESIDENT should make time to call you because your black and he's black is just foolishness)

You guessed it:
Charlie Wilson

Oh yeah this guy is OVER THE TOP way OVER

he single handedly took the cool out of cornrowns...but thats not it

Everytime i see this picture i have to laugh this guy is actually alot younger than i thought according to wikipedia he was born in 1953 which would make him 56...i had the man well into his 70s...this blatant attempt to look younger has backfired. LOL the wave cap & the cross are really what did it for me...that pencil thin mustache is a dead give away...Uncle Charlie please knock it off LOL

O.T.T. Rating: 7

Next on my list is:
Fleetwood the Lion...Fleetwood the Lion from the Wiz

Now dont get me wrong i love THE WIZ one of my fav all time movies but this lion right here is OVER THE TOP...i dont know if yall realize it but homie wears platform shoes thru out the movie and that alone gets him O.T.T.'d he is my least fav character in the movie and i wish i could trade off the lion from the wizard of oz for him. Everything he does in the movie is done bigger and more dramatic than necessary...hes just all over the place...even when he busts out of the statue....OVER THE TOP LOL

O.T.T. Rating: 8 (just because I dont like those platform shoes he wears)

Up next we have:

T-Pain (Self-Explanitory)

Ok so this guy has morph'd into what i consider to be baffonery...but thats not the focal point of this post let me show u why i feel he is over the top

All this circus nonsense...and the top hats i am not digging it in any way shape or form...and who told him he can dance? he looks like a california raisin in a hip hop aerobics class trying to figure out which step comes next...Tallahassee Pain you are O.T.T.

O.T.T. Rating: 8

OH What's her name??? What-cha-ma-call-it you... know the one who almost pulled a Britney but changed her mind:

CASSIE

I mean there isnt much left to say can the chile even sing? all i remember is a low whisper of a video...If she was already popular then i probably wouldnt even feel the way i feel about this...why isnt she doing something to become more of a socialite? this attention seeking behavior will not make people buy your music...

O.T.T. rating: 10

(gotta give you a 10 your just being desperate honey)

Last but certainly not least:

PATTI LABELLE (80's version)

I used to straight think Patti Labelle was crazy...i mean the lady had the strangest hair ever....she was bizarre but still so cool...she still kept her personality so REAL...well that is when not in the middle of a performance...because when she performs this lady does whatever she wants...lays on the floor...flaps her wings..jerks her head...kicks off her shoes...jumps up and down..wears crazy costumes...tip toes across the stage...points her long nails at people all while singing...flawlessly might i add

if you can get thru either one of these or both of these videos trust me you will not be disappointed...

SHE IS OVER THE TOP...trust me she DELIVERS LOL

80's version of Patti LaBelle...

MISS THANG...

you are the epitome of O.T.T.

YOU ARE OVER THE TOP

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Smile, Old People & Border Patrol

This is exactly why you should always, ALWAYS... twirl once, twice and in extreme measures three times in front of the mirror before leaving the house. i think she did this on purpose tho...its too coordinated with the yellow dress and dark belt...she knew what she was getting into...LOL.

and why do old people always go to the market to buy the heaviest things ever...its like they go there to show off or prove a point...

old people are all, "yeah what..i can lift the ridiculously huge charcoal bag into my cart....so what, i know its the dead of winter but one can never have too much charcoal" or "why wouldnt i need to buy 100 bottles of water at a time." they are all, "of course i buy in bulk."

Sorry old folks...i love ya but thats a Technical Foul and a Flag on the Play...yall gotta knock it off with that malarkey.

U Gotta love how old people dress tho...most not all seriously just put something on...there are still some old fashionistas and fashionistos but they are far and few in between. the oldies i see in church still keep it fresh but on regular days they do them LOL

On another note...so last night i went to get some pizza after rehearsal last night and me being me lil miss talkative i found myself talking to the owners of the resturant. I always lead these random conversations off with, "So how was business today?" most people lie and say they were busy but some are honest and say they had a slow day or tell me it was busy at one point and slow at another point during the day...

but anyway....case and point...

WHY do i always deem it necessary to find out where foreign people i come to contact with are from??

The guys @ the pizza place ended up being from Turkey and Greece (pizza wasn't good...cheap cheese). I think the thing that makes me start asking questions is the fact that people from other countries always like to break into their native language when they are in the middle of a conversation with english speaking people. I used to think it was rude but i dont care any more mainly b/c i could careless if your talking about me in english, mandarin, spanish, portugese etc....anyway i just think its funny that i deem it necessary to ask foreigners where they are from and how long they have been in America like i am some kind of border patrol.

Respect my AUTHORI-TIEEE

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